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Dear Mugger, It Could Have Been Different

I’ve moved from anxiety to eager anticipation. My Ignite talk is coming up on Tuesday, and I’m feeling good about my presentation. 

After much debate about what I wanted to say, I’m confident I’ve honed in on the right topic. But having a great idea doesn’t necessarily translate to good execution. Many drafts and conversations later, my process has evolved into something (I hope) the audience will find compelling, entertaining and still relates back to the evening’s Women Innovators theme.

The tile of my talk is ‘Dear Mugger, It Could Have Been Different.’

Bam!

True story: I was physically assaulted on October 13, 2008 whilst strolling home in the Mission here in SF, CA. A woman ran up behind me and started raining down on me with fists, pulling my hair out, punching me in the face – just generally kicking my ass. I had no idea what was going on. She did not at any point tell me that she was after my laptop (a conclusion I later drew post-attack), so I held on to my stuff out of sheer shock. Eventually she gave up and ran away. 

She was pretty amateur. By all accounts, this mug was one epic fail. She did not succeed in taking my stuff. However, if she had just made a simple request of me, I would have gladly given up my IBM ThinkPad and the $8 in my wallet if the alternative was getting beat up. No brainer.   

In telling this story and the subsequent conclusions I’ve drawn looking back on the attack, the intention of my Ignite talk is to illustrate that effective (in this case, verbal) communication is essential in getting what you want. This translates into business, friendships, romance , mugging – all relationships. 

At the very least, it’s been a hugely cathartic experience for me in putting together this deck. Thanks Ignite :)

Practice might not always make perfct, but it definitely builds confidence. A big thank you to my clever, compassionate friends who allowed me sit them down with my .ppt and and show them my slides, continually asking them:

Is this boring?

Am I funny?

Do you get what I’m trying to say, with this one?

And all sorts of other annoying questions. Bring on Tuesday!

Class is now in Session

I am excited. Two very good girlfriends of mine have asked me to help them out.

One of them is a coach – her offer is diverse, and her clients are varied. She provides guidance on intercultural leadership and communication, corporate management and team building, family coaching, one-on-one career coaching and successful generational wealth transfer.

The other is a lawyer. She is a partner at a small employment firm and manages not only other attorneys but a large case load.

They’re both super clever and I have a lot of professional respect for each of them. Both are interested in learning about technology in a broad-based way because they want to diversify their careers and have asked me to provide instruction. Not only am I flattered, but I feel that these ‘tutorials’as I’ve been calling them, will be a great mental exercise and excuse to do some research into a space that I’ve become active in.

Having little to no experience in tech (Facebook, instant message and a few different email clients sums up their familiarity), I put together a list of 7 tutorials I want to explore. My goal is to provide a framework for them to understand the trends occurring today and the major shifts in innovation, media and culture. To do that one requires perspective and history. So we’re starting at the beginning. Here are my topics:

1. History of the WWW
2. Buzzwords & Definitions
3. Business Models
4. Major Players in the Space
5. Media Evolution
6. Social Media & Cultural Impact
7. Green Tech

My coach friend is interested specifically in learning more about the dynamic between young entrepreneurs, their start-ups and the VCs that back them. My lawyer friend is looking to leverage her legal experience and apply it to a different vertical – potentially technology.

Our second geek session is tomorrow over brunch. Might be a few guest posts in their homework assignment. Check back in over the next couple of weeks.